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The A – Z of Death – K is for Kübler-Ross. Elizabeth Kübler-Ross was a Swiss-American psychiatrist working with terminally ill patients in the 1960s. Her book, On Death and Dying outlines five stages that terminally ill patients go through: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. This model has been taken out of context and applied to grieving in general, leading to a popular assumption that the bereaved go through a linear process of recovery. Although the model can be helpful in understanding feelings when we are affected by the profound challenge of losing loved ones, the reality is more that we move back and forth between stages, often in short spaces of time. This is quite normal – the ‘good days’ and ‘bad days’ don’t last for days, just for minutes , before fluctuating and changing. Our workshops, coming up on 27th Nov and 4th December, deal with the subject of grief, how we can become stuck and how to help if someone you know is suffering. Visit the Upcoming Events Page on our website https://cedareducation.org.uk/ for more info and to book. #grief#bereavement#kublerross#death#dying#mourning#complicatedgrief#azofdeath

This ticket is for booking both Part 1, How To Talk About Death In Healthy Ways and Part 2, Understanding Grief, together. You receive a £50 discount, meaning the workshops cost £250 rather than £300.

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Building confidence and resilience to deal with life’s greatest challenges–death, dying and loss. Book by clicking this link to Eventbrite

Day 2: Wednesday, 04 December 2019 (£150 or £125 w/discount)

Understanding Grief will:

• Extend your knowledge of how grief affects the individual, workplace or community

• Improve your ability to console the bereaved

• Review notions of time and how to use them

• Help you understand the behaviours of the bereaved

• Explore the meaning of Legacy

• Cover the importance of memory & memorial

“This class has helped me to be mindful that everyone experiences grief differently, there is no right or wrong, just what works for each person. I enjoyed learning about other cultures and it has made me question the Western worlds approach and how it needs to change.” Michelle John

This workshop comes with workbook, interactive exercises, 5 hrs CPD certificate, Good Grief Leaf pin and luncheon voucher from Stop Cafe.

Receive a £50 discount when booking Part 1 & Part 2 together.

Advanced Booking Essential

Fees from this workshop go to support CEDAR Life Lessons for young people.

How to talk about death in healthy ways 

These workshops are designed to develop highly effective communication for teachers, healthcare professionals, parents and anyone wanting to improve his/her discussions around death, dying and loss. Saying the right thing at the right time can make a huge difference and help keep a team mentally and emotionally resilient. If you value your workforce, students, and clients, this programme is vital. Book here via Eventbrite.

Day 1: Wednesday, 27 November 2019 (£150 or £125 with 2-day discount)

• Understand why talking about death matters

• Think differently about death, dying and loss

• Increase confidence to talk about loss with others

• Gain a greater understanding of the social consequences of loss

• Learn how to use notions of time to speak with people of all ages

• Explore the Importance of Language

• Improve responses to those who are grieving

Save £50.00 when booking Part 1 & 2 workshops together

Advance booking essential

Fees go to support the CEDAR Life Lessons programme for young people.

In some cultures human remains were placed in jars rather than buried in the ground. This particular image is of the ‘lid’ of such a jar, a number of which were comparatively recently discovered (1991) in caves in the Philippines. The jar lids in the form of a head were all different and were taken to represent the person who had been interred within. Some of the jars had breasts, indicating the occupant was female, some had a penis-like projection at the bottom of the jar. These particular examples date back to around 2000 years ago. Jar burial was used as part of a two-stage process – referred to as ‘wet’ and ‘dry’ burial. The body remained in the jar (which had holes in the bottom) whilst it decomposed – this could take months or even years, depending on the climate. The bones were then transferred to their final resting place. This particular style of jar, with the sculpted heads, were actually used for the ‘dry’ part of the ceremony – only the bones were placed inside so they are somewhat smaller than the jars used for the ‘wet’ burial. Occasionally artefacts have been found buried in the jar – beads, jewellery etc. A fascinating alternative to being interred. #death#burial#burialgrounds#disposal

Humans have always sought #immortality – the idea that death can be transcended and life will continue on another plane or in another form. The author Ernest Becker, in his book The Denial of Death, posited the theory that human life consists of the physical and the symbolic world and that within the symbolic we strive to be connected to something that has meaning, that will continue after physical death. Religion has traditionally fulfilled this role but is ceasing to have the meaning and weight it once had. Others argue that it is precisely because our life is limited that this meaning exists – if immortality was possible and life never ended, everything becomes pointless.
However, #Transhumanists desire immortality and believe that science has the answer to everlasting life – and that is is within the grasp of humans within the next 50 years or so. To this end some people have been #cryogenically frozen after death, awaiting a time when sufficient advances have been made for bodily revival to take place. #death#dying#everlastinglife#immortality#azofdeath#cryogenics#denialofdeath#ankh

When someone we love dies, we feel it in our body – the ache of loss goes right through us and nowhere more so than in our ‘broken heart’. Did you know though, that it is medically possible to die from a broken heart? The name for this condition is Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy or Broken Heart Syndrome and it can be brought about by stress hormones such as adrenalin, released during times of great sadness. Women are more affected than men, in particular women aged between 60 and 70. Fortunately death is infrequent and symptoms are treatable. Historically, as recently as 1870, it was reported in the British Medical Journal that a young man had died of ‘disappointment’ after his engagement was broken off and of course literature is full of star-crossed lovers who part and subsequently die. There are even references in the Bible from Old Testament times to broken hearts, and the Welsh goddess Branden is reported in the Mabinogion as having died from insufferable grief following her unhappy marriage. Once you have suffered from a painful bereavement, you would have no doubt that it feels as if a broken heart is part of the process. #grief#bereavement#death#azofdeath#brokenheart#brokenhearted#grieving#grievingprocess

The loss of someone we love is one of the worst things that can happen to us, and yet we are seldom prepared for it when it happens. Most of us do not talk about #death or #dying, even when it becomes obvious that it is going to happen. Here at CEDAR, our mission is to bring Death Education to all ages, enabling people to know more and to feel more comfortable discussing #grief and #bereavement. There are different types of grief, from complicated grief which can happen under certain circumstances where, for example, feelings for the deceased are mixed or multiple deaths occur at once. Disenfranchised grief occurs when we, or other people, think we are not entitled to the grief we feel; a common example of this is when a beloved pet dies and people are expected to recover in days or even hours. We explain these concepts in our workshops with the aim that the more we understand these ideas, the easier it becomes to help each other. #grief#grieving#bereavement#death#dying#talkingaboutdeath#loss#ithappenstousall#azofdeath

F is for #funeral. In the west we have been very influenced by Christian Victorian styles of funeral but of course there have always been many ways to say #farewell to loved ones, across all societies and through all eras. Human remains in the west are #buried or #cremated but some customs in other cultures see the body being placed into large jars or small huts where they are left to dry out before a second stage funeral takes place to bury the dry remains. However we deal with our dead, saying #goodbye is never easy but the funeral enables us to draw strength from the gathered community who help us to grieve and eventually to move on. #grief#bereavement#funeralservice#funeralservices#death#dying#azdeath

#eulogy is a speech given at a #funeral, where a celebrant, minister or loved one talks about the person who has died. At one time it was common for a eulogy to be a rather formal piece, where the facts of a person’s life were covered but nothing very personal was said. Nowadays, a #eulogy is frequently a loving remembrance, where amusing stories or quirky habits of the deceased are talked about and celebrated. Professor Douglas Davies calls this ‘words against death’ and his theory is that a eulogy or written memorial have a power to help the community to heal after a death, showing that death does not have the last word. #death#dying#inmemorium#love#funeral#celebrant#celebrationoflife

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